Say ”no”! About saying no and setting limits

How good are you at saying no? This may seem like a silly question, but for many people it is still quite difficult. Of course, I am not literally talking here about saying the word no, but more about setting boundaries.

Set boundaries

Many people find it hard to refuse another person something. This then applies especially to those around you, such as friends, family and colleagues. The reason for this is often because they want to keep these people friendly.

After all, saying no to a request could lead to crooked faces and disappointment.

You cannot always say ‘yes’

Besides, it is almost impossible to always say ”yes” to everything. At least, not if you want to live a nice life yourself. Helping people is of course a great thing, but first make sure you have your own affairs in order a bit.

You can only have a positive influence on others when you yourself are happy and content.

You don’t have to do everything for someone else

Another disadvantage of not daring to say ”no” is that you will regularly do things you don’t like. Although not everything in life can always be fun, it is not necessary to do annoying things for others all the time. Especially when it comes to things that are actually outside your job or responsibility.

It can be negative

So even though standing up for yourself is a good thing, of course not everyone may respond equally well to it. For example, if you always say ”yes” when a colleague asks you to fill in for him, chances are that suddenly saying ”no” will provoke indignation in him. After all, he is used to you always being there for him.

Do not get discouraged

Still, it is important not to let yourself be discouraged by any negative reactions. This is because the benefits of being assertive will do you more good than avoiding those few disappointed people. In doing so, it is important to be critical of your circle of friends and acquaintances.

Because say it yourself, would you want to deal with people who walk all over you all the time?

Pushing boundaries

Learning to say ”no” is a challenging process that requires you to push your limits. Yet it does not have to be as difficult as you might think. You can get a lot in return.